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Ali Afroz's avatar

I agree with your conclusions regarding the morality of these actions, but I actually think it’s pragmatically useful to have a clear line like this. In my experience, family members find exceptions like being willing to eat leftovers incomprehensible and will modify their behaviour in ways you don’t want because they can’t understand why you’d be willing to eat in that situation, but not other situations. I’m speaking from experience here because my own parents interpreted me being willing to eat leftovers as implicit permission to order extra meat for me. In fact, because normal people find this kind of moral reasoning, pretty alien and hard to track. It is generally good to have simple rules because what more complicated rules appear clear to you appear like random whims to them. A person who never eats meat or never eats specific categories of meat is much easier to mentally model. Of course, some level of flexibility has its own benefits because people appreciate it when they see your willing to bend your principles for their convenience and will try to reciprocate but be careful that this doesn’t turn into them annoyingly pushing at your boundaries until your behaviour has substantially changed in ways you don’t want. It isn’t intentional, but if people don’t know the boundaries, they’ll end up pushing them especially if they think You enjoy the taste of meat since they value you having fun.

Christopher F. Hansen's avatar

Herodotus relates this famous anecdote:

"Take, for example, this story from the reign of Darius. He called together some Greeks who were present and asked them how much money they would wish to be paid to devour the corpses of their fathers – to which the Greeks replied that no amount of money would suffice for that. Next, Darius summoned some Indians called Callantians, who do eat their parents [n.b.: as a funerary rite], and asked them in the presence of the Greeks (who were able to follow what was being said by means of an interpreter) how much money it would take to buy their consent to the cremation of their dead fathers – at which the Callantians cried out in horror and told him that his words were a desecration of silence. Such, then, is how custom operates; and how right Pindar is, it seems to me, when he declares in his poetry that ‘Custom is the King of all’.

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